That’s right, I said it: DIVORCE. D-I-V-O-R-C-E. When we were getting married, “divorce” was like a dirty word. The prospect was terrifying. Still. I joked, as we were getting married, about how passion and reason did not always coexist. How could either of us possibly vow to become one with another person, until our lives…
Obviously, I watched Beyonce’s Lemonade several times, and loved it. Obviously. And then obsessively called the two people I knew would watch it until they’d watched it, so we could recap. One observed: “She’s so dramatic!” For those of you who haven’t seen it, the visuals attach the struggles of the singer’s marriage to the…
A lot of us cried when we read the US Supreme Court’s Obergefell v. Hodges decision. The decision came out a few days before we were married, about a year ago now. At the time, I was up to my eyeballs in wedding junk, so reading the decision was like applying a balm – it…
While I have some saucy friends who have taken and shared provocative photos, I’m not one for them myself. I blush whenever my husband tells me he thinks I look pretty*; I don’t think I could keep a straight face while posing seductively. A “boudoir” photo shoot is out of the question: I’d snort with…
A piece on the New York Times website gave me pause today, specifically this line: It’s impossible not to have favorites, and we do know that the perception of favoritism is one of the biggest factors in sibling rivalry… Yes – that one sentence is a direct quote from a pediatrician and professor at Johns…
Just remember that, those of you who are sad about Valentine’s Day. 😉 The first year we were together, Q made some comment like: “If every day is like Valentine’s Day, what’s the point of celebrating? It’s just a commercial holiday.” I agreed: “That’s true, it is commercial.” but thought to myself: “How do you…
Last night I had a dream that I cheated on my husband. With one of his friends. After the cheating, I felt awful about it – I felt so guilty. When I woke up, I was relieved to find that it was just a bad dream. But I was shaken enough that I felt I…
I was single for a long time before I met Q. A loooooooong time. I wish I could say that I was single because I was too busy busting my ass and kicking down doors to be in a relationship. On some level, this is true: my single years were highly productive. But it’s also not…
A colleague of mine is having lady troubles. He has a friend who he thought was just a friend, but this lady has been acting somewhat amorously. He went to a party; when he left, she was very affectionate. She’s asked him to do a couple of date-like activities, like swing dancing. Now, to me,…
The other night, my sister said something I liked. We’d been talking about someone’s divorce (I know, I know). The split, like all splits, is sad: at one point, the couple was in love. But we weren’t surprised: at the end, it didn’t seem like the couple enjoyed spending time together. So we talked about…
