That’s right, I said it: DIVORCE. D-I-V-O-R-C-E. When we were getting married, “divorce” was like a dirty word. The prospect was terrifying. Still. I joked, as we were getting married, about how passion and reason did not always coexist. How could either of us possibly vow to become one with another person, until our lives…
Obviously, I watched Beyonce’s Lemonade several times, and loved it. Obviously. And then obsessively called the two people I knew would watch it until they’d watched it, so we could recap. One observed: “She’s so dramatic!” For those of you who haven’t seen it, the visuals attach the struggles of the singer’s marriage to the…
In the segment of Lemonade labelled: “Denial”, Beyonce recites part of Warsan Shire’s “For Women Who Are Difficult to Love”. We’ve just seen her jump off the side of a building, as though ending her life; she’s chanting while floating in water – almost as in utero: “I tried to change closed my mouth more…
The other night, I zipped through and watched bits of both Sex and the City movies on Netflix. Z caught me: “Ah, you’re watching this?!” I was, momentarily, embarrassed. Me: “What?! Did you even ever watch Sex and the City?” Z: “Yeah, a few episodes.” Me: “Oh God, I loved it.” You know why I…
For a long time, my best friend dated a dud. She was earlier to the dating game than I was. She’d get upset about something he did, and I was bewildered… until years later, when I experienced it for myself. Then? “I cannot believe you put up with all that!” That, and she and I had…
A lot of us cried when we read the US Supreme Court’s Obergefell v. Hodges decision. The decision came out a few days before we were married, about a year ago now. At the time, I was up to my eyeballs in wedding junk, so reading the decision was like applying a balm – it…
You know I love to read about Vancouver, so imagine my happiness when I realized: there must be a global audience for this! Look – a story about the kids with fancy cars was on the cover of the New York Times! For all its growth and change, Vancouver is still a small town (so, you…
While part of me – the rational, logical part of me – wants to dismiss that luck exists at all – another part of me – the empathetic, humble, kind part of me – cannot. Often, I’ll think: “‘Luck’, that’s just something we use to explain what science hasn’t figured out yet”; or “‘Bad luck’?…
The other weekend, we visited another couple and stayed with them. It was wonderful, they were great hosts. They were so relaxed; we helped ourselves to their food and beverage, did all sorts of fun things with them, and had an excellent time. Helping ourselves to their food was especially nice, as they had a…
A new candy store opened here a while back, and when we went in, they graciously offered us samples. Z is a candy connoisseur: he both loves and collects candy. As he tasted one, he smacked his lips. He assumed the shopkeeper was the same – a candy connoisseur: “Ah, it’s a little more mellow…
